We all are born with an inner critic that’s on the job 24/7, analyzing and criticizing every aspect of our day to day lives.

It doesn’t matter how much you have achieved, accomplished, changed, fixed or tweaked in your life, your inner critic will make sure to remind you that things aren’t perfect.  It is constantly looking for problems, mistakes, flaws, imperfections and things that need to be fixed!

It doesn’t even give us a break when we have really great lives or when we  have overcome huge obstacles, challenges and made positive changes in our lives.

Our critic is always always present. It’s always nagging.


Because our personal critic feeds off of our insecurities and feelings of inadequacy.

Over time we develop coping mechanisms. When we feel bad about ourselves, we naturally seek out support in others.  When this doesn’t work, we in turn blame our supporters and loved ones for the way we are feeling and they (according to our personal critic) become more and more imperfect.

Everything and everyone else becomes the focus of our personal critic.

The personal critic makes sure to deflect criticism by criticizing.  This is another coping mechanism.

We make sure to let everyone else know that they have more things to work on than us.

Brutal. Lethal. Honest.

Listening to our personal critic keeps us from having the really great life we’ve always wanted because we are constantly blowing everything up.

The people we love become saturated and weighed down with our emotional shrapnel.

Chaos is everywhere because of our actions create chaos even though what we really strive for is peace.

So what are we to do?

Start by recognizing your power.

The second thing we need to do is stop blowing up a perfectly good life.  Chaos isn’t good for anyone. The path to peace makes more sense.

The third thing we need to understand is that we are solely responsible for the way we are feeling and begin the long journey of self-healing. We need to stop blaming others for the way we feel. Start by resolving our own insecurities and inadequacies instead of pointing out those of others.

The forth thing we need to do is help those we have hurt heal.  Accept that our actions have hurt others. Period.

The fifth thing we need to do is show some gratitude, because a little gratitude goes a long way.

Most of all we need to let go